Let me ask you a few personal questions…
When you think of having sex with your partner, do you instantly become aroused?
Do you frequently orgasm when having sex?
Do you spend as much (or more) time dedicated to foreplay as you do penetration?
If you answered “no” to any of these questions, then you NEED to step-up your foreplay game.
Foreplay is a mental and physical practice. There are so many techniques and strategies that will get you dripping wet and result in those back-arching, toe-curling orgasms you are both after.
Both men and women really benefit from foreplay. It’s not just a nicety – it’s a must-have and essential for really great sex. The Journal of Sex Research found that both men and women crave 18 minutes of foreplay before sex. Are you dedicating 18minutes? Most people aren’t, and they’re robbing themselves of the big O!
So, without further ado, I’m going to tell you 7 foreplay techniques you can start using right now that will lead to mind-blowing sex.
1. Send a sext (or a nude).
I’m sure you have experienced sexual tension before… it’s when you can physically feel the sexual energy between you and another person. This often happens with a new partner, and the sexual tension can start to dwindle when you are in a long-term relationship. Some people become addicted to this type of mental, sexual tension so they constantly seek new partners to get this high.
You don’t need to find a new partner to create this form of mental foreplay (you’ll see this in technique #7 too). You can recreate these feelings with your long-term partner through some tried-and-true sexting. Send a sexually charged and suggestive message like the following:
“I can’t wait to see you tonight – I’m getting wet just thinking about it!”
The majority of us are often more “visual” - that’s why the porn industry is much bigger than the erotic lit business! Try sending your partner a semi-nude pic. It doesn’t have to be a full-frontal or show your face; a picture of your panty line or your lingerie laid out on your bed will get their imagination going and start building the suspense.
2. Dress to impress.
The clothes you wear can play a big role in turning you on, as well as your partner. Wearing sexy lingerie and clothes you feel sexy in will create sexual energy. Go out for dinner and wear a dress or skirt – and no panties. Tell your partner this to build the suspense. He won’t be able to stop thinking about it all through dinner.
If you feel sexy with a red lip and hair down - do it! Your partner will pick up on the confidence and sexual vibes you are putting out there.
3. Kiss, lick and suck up and down the body.
Foreplay kissing should be a full-body experience. For an unexpected experience, start near his ankle and kiss your way up the inside of his leg. When you get to his groin, lick the crease of his upper thigh. This is a very sensitive area that will drive him wild. Give him a little tease, licking, sucking, and kissing his penis before kissing up to his nipples and back down again. The suspense will supercharge the arousal! Once you’ve made your way back down, give him a blow job to the brink of orgasm before switching it up.
